My 3 boys and I

October 19, 2007

What Im Learning about Parenting

Filed under: parenting — by my3boysandi @ 11:48 am

I believe parenting is an on the job learning experience and that each day brings new things to learn

I would like to share 2 things I have learnt

Maybe you have learnt things that have made a difference in your parenting occupation please share them with me

Talk to the Hand

I use to get into great arguments with my daughter. When this started happening earlier in the year with My Trier his teacher shared this great idea with me.

DONT get into your arguments

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“Talk to the Hand”

and ignore any other discussion or back chatting

Later talk when both have had a chance to cool down

I so wish Id known this earlier

would have saved a lot of arguments between my daughter and I


The other day my wonderful next door neighbour lent me a great book

The Incredible Years by Carolyn Webster-Stratton

On page 272

speechmarks1.jpg Avoid trying . . . force them to confess because most people, even adults, will lie when asked to incriminate themselvesspeechmarks2.jpg

DONT ask why or any other questions

Do invite them to problem solve how to fix the problem


This avoids getting into arguments and teaches the child problem solving skills



  1. Bless you dear one.

    Comment by Denise — October 19, 2007 @ 2:23 pm |Reply

  2. In The Art of War by Sun Su he says not to back people into a corner where they have no way out because they will become defensive and attack. Humans hate admitting they are wrong.

    Comment by Steph — October 19, 2007 @ 7:41 pm |Reply

  3. thanks Denise

    interesting quote Steph

    Comment by my3boysandi — October 20, 2007 @ 1:03 am |Reply

  4. I put my kids in the corner when they begin to talk back, glare at me, or even roll their eyes at me.

    I need to gain their respect now, or I will be in serious trouble when they are older.

    Comment by Leticia — October 20, 2007 @ 5:44 am |Reply

  5. true thats for sharing Leti

    Comment by my3boysandi — October 20, 2007 @ 6:40 am |Reply

  6. I agree on your ideas for dealing with lying. I also wanted to remind you to be thankful while this is going on. It’s an opportunity for growth for your son, with prayer and your love, maybe some of these things are coming to the surface to be dealt with now, rather than later when your influence on his life isn’t so available. Just think of this as a good thing. 🙂 ((hugs))

    Comment by Mary — October 20, 2007 @ 8:59 am |Reply

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