My 3 boys and I

November 8, 2007

The Cross Roads

Filed under: Home and Family,National Blog Posting Month — by my3boysandi @ 6:24 am

Do you ever come to cross roads in your life????

I feel like Im there yet again

which road do I take???


One road which has cropped up numerous times over the last 3 years and especially suggested by My Triers private tutor who knows how My Trier learns very well is to HOMESCHOOL. My Trier learns best at a one to one level

I am still not at all sure how well My Trier will cope at high school and as I found out its only a year away. (I thought and was told Id have another year by the previous headmaster on Monday I found out this is out to be by the current headmistress) It scares me what will happen to My Trier if he goes to high school. He is very easily lead by others and this I fear will get him into serious trouble. It is also likely he has ADHD therefore he doesnt apply consequences to himself well. The school he goes to at the moment care a bit but high schools wont care in the same way.

If I homeschool can I be forceful enough to make My Trier do school work???

He will try to get out of it

If I do homeschool how will I go about it???

I have home schooled before in the past (for 2.5 years) but my daughter was a “normal’ student

Do I wait the year or make a start at the end of this year???

Financially Id be worst off than if I worked if I took this road but $$ isnt everything. Wed have enough to live on. I worked it out this morning.  And I wouldnt have to buy a high school uniform

The other road is the WORK road

Quite a while ago I asked some friends and people I know to write me references

Recently I asked again and got some of them

now Im wondering whether I wasted their time I wont need them if I homeschool now will I?

I went to Uni to get my qualifications and in order to register as a teacher (in my case early childhood teacher) one must work for 2 years (in a preschool) within 5 years of getting ones bachelor. This means Id need to start work next year.

I wouldnt be able to do this if I home schooled.

Im not sure what happens if one doesnt get registered within this time limit.

Possibly retraining in the future would I be able to afford that then???

Whats more important???

Wed be better off financially if I worked but would it be in everyones best interests???



  1. Don’t let your own qualifications go to waste Jen, you’re a talented woman and you worked hard. Perhaps go to work for two years, give The Trier a year at high school to see how it goes? If it doesn’t work out then you’ll have your two years of work you needed and can teach him at home. Hope you come to a decision soon. *hugs*

    Comment by lovestitches — November 8, 2007 @ 8:57 am |Reply

  2. I can’t really give you advice. I am working and my two little boys go to public schools.

    I know that I do not have the discipline to sit them down at home and be their teacher.

    It is a very tough decision and with a lot of prayer, I know the Lord will show you which is the best road to take.

    I wish I could be more helpful, but this is one thing I just cannot answer.

    Comment by Leticia — November 8, 2007 @ 9:09 am |Reply

  3. Golly, a big decision for you Jen. I think I’d be inclined to leave things be till the end of term, being so close to the end of the year.
    I wish you all the best for whatever decision you make, I’m sure it’ll all work out. Hay xxxx

    Comment by Hay — November 8, 2007 @ 9:36 am |Reply

  4. Tough choices Jen, have you talked to the high school he would be going to about your concerns? Take Care – Rachael – xo

    Comment by Rachael — November 8, 2007 @ 1:08 pm |Reply

  5. Praying for God to help you make this decision my friend, love you.

    Comment by Denise — November 8, 2007 @ 6:15 pm |Reply

  6. Jen,
    Just some thoughts/questions…

    What does Trier think about staying home vs. going to public school?

    It might help to have some of the answers to some of the questions you raise about your training before you make your decision. Are there any creative ways you can meet the criteria & still homeschool?

    How do you think you’ll feel two years down the road if you choose to go back to work? My gut tells me your heart desires to stay home – could be wrong – wouldn’t be the first time 🙂

    Bring it before the Lord, He will make the path clear.

    Comment by Sue — November 8, 2007 @ 6:18 pm |Reply

  7. Its funny you posted this because I was just feeling I am once again at the crossroad last night. I do seem to find myself here quite often.

    Comment by Dariana — November 9, 2007 @ 1:39 am |Reply

  8. Firstly thanks everyone
    I value your suggestions and advice

    I dont know that it would be a waste LM I learnt a lot and this could help with the homeschooling
    to leave any longer could seal his doom he is easily lead and the peer pressure could be diasterous
    he maybe be 12 but he doesnt really function as one due to his special needs

    Leticia I have homeschooled in the past for 2.5 years

    Hay I wouldnt be doing anything till next year
    except get the wheels moving

    Rachael I havent talked to the high schools but I have listened to advice from lots of people about the available high schools and they dont sound all the great when you have a child like my dear one

    My thoughts and prayers are with you Dari
    Im pleased its not just me that comes to them often

    Comment by my3boysandi — November 9, 2007 @ 3:06 am |Reply

  9. Sue
    Hes ok He HATES school
    It is my hearts desire to stay at home
    I love being a sahm
    I also would hate to think where my Trier might be in 2 years time if I go back to work
    thanks for visiting my blog 🙂

    Comment by my3boysandi — November 9, 2007 @ 3:42 am |Reply

  10. I’ve come to that same crossroad in my life and is a difficult choice. Good luck on making YOUR right choice. Thinking of you on Thursday!

    Comment by And Miles To Go... — November 9, 2007 @ 8:38 am |Reply

  11. A tough choice indeed. Whichever road you take, there’s always pro and cons. You just have weigh which one is more important and urgent and take it from there. I’m sure whatever it is, you’ll cope and all your sacrifices will pay off.

    Comment by Tot's Mom — November 9, 2007 @ 1:16 pm |Reply

  12. thanks TM

    Comment by my3boysandi — November 9, 2007 @ 7:39 pm |Reply

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