“I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.” Song of Solomon 7:10
The sexual relationship. It’s one of those elements – along with money and children –
that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity destroys intimacy, but
encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage bond.
Let’s get practical here. Is your husband a “good lover?” Have you told him so? Be
specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely want to please
their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.
In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as you
focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your husband wants
intimacy with you…his desire is toward you.
Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a sensitive
area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity in positive ways.
This is an area where I am still in a dilemma. I feel I am living in sin. We are not married. Yet we live together and have sexual relations with one another. I have asked him to marry me. He doesnt think the time is right. I have tried to abstain and although I felt God had told me too, our relationship nose dived. As you can see I have a dilemma.