My 3 boys and I

June 1, 2008

Week in Review

Filed under: week in review — by my3boysandi @ 4:20 pm

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Home schooled felt a bit lazy in the afternoon but we ended up doing some good science stuff

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Playgroup

Before I left I asked Mr Wonderful to hang out a load of washing. It was fine after days and days and days of rain

do you think he did it???

NO

I was not impressed and hang it up after playgroup having lost precious hours of sunshine

and then it rained in the afternoon again

He did set the heater going and the clothes horse up in the hallway and we did manage to dry some clothes

Home schooling and then My home Schooler went to a home schooling friends house
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went on a good field trip today see photos and write up here and then we went to the library

Friday afternoons we go swimming a nice way to finish the week and a chance for us to get with other home schoolers

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Got up after a restless night. Went to church for an hour to help with the garage sale. Then took My Home schooler to sea scouts he has a sleepover this weekend.

Came home and cleaned the house. Mr Wonderful helped. The house was suppose to be inspected today but the landladies friend never turned up. Our landlady is in the South Island. This isnt the first time the friend hasnt bothered. Good in some ways not so good in others. Went for a drive later in the afternoon.

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Church this morning

quiet afternoon

Living in a blended family as we do is challenging. I debated as to whether to post this or not. However, this is my blog and my diary if you like. You dear readers have been supportive in the past and I know in order for the most affective prayers one needs to know what they are praying for. Also if you live in a blended family our story might help you with your own family.

we are going through a bit of a tough time at the moment

My Home Schooler is pushing the limits with Mr Wonderful
I hadnt realized how bad things were
all I could see was that Mr Wonderful seemed to be picking on My Home schooler

I have a hard time biting my tongue and not putting my 2 cents in which didnt help

I thought their problems were their problems when in fact they affect all of us

we are a family

On Friday night it all got too much for Mr Wonderful and he told me he was going to leave us
On Saturday I told him I thought he should go because it didnt seem like he loved us

He broke down and told me he was having a hard time but didnt want to leave me
We both contacted people we look up to and told them how things were for us
My sister (bless her) suggested we make a chart and apply punishments and bible verses to it
She emailed me hers

Mr Wonderful and I agreed his threats dont help and I got on board and am helping to make things work better around here
This afternoon when My Home schooler got home from the sea scouts weekend he went on. We had a family meeting.

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15 Comments »

  1. hey Jen, I can relate to Mr Wonderful’s feelings. You know what helped my dh and I with this same thing? Discussing the situation in the quiet times when the stress wasn’t there, that way we were both able to be more logical about it and say how we felt honestly, secondly you both need to back each other up and come up with some strategies you both feel good about…goodness me I”m sound like Dr Phil… ๐Ÿ™‚

    Comment by Amy — June 1, 2008 @ 5:26 pm |Reply

  2. Yep, those teens are so good at dividing and conquering. If you and Mr. W. can present a united front it will be harder for your Homeschooler to play one of you against the other.

    And I know it might be more prevalent with a blended family, but even families where the children live with their birth parents can fall victim to the kids playing one parent against the other. I speak from experience here.

    Hugs and prayers going out to you, Jen.

    Have a better new week.

    Comment by Diane J. — June 1, 2008 @ 6:41 pm |Reply

  3. Oh I hope you guys can work through it. I agree with the others, you need to be united on things so your homeschooler knows the rules are firm and that he can’t get around them.

    Comment by lovestitches — June 2, 2008 @ 1:20 am |Reply

  4. I admire your transparency, Jen. My first thought was to tell you how nice I think it is that Friday afternoons are for swimming and what a nice way that is to end a week and start a weekend. Then I read on and I’m sorry to hear about the family discord you’re going through.

    But Diane J. is absolutely right. This happens in a lot of families, blended or not, and there is no better defense than a united front when a teen suddenly starts shaking things up around the home.

    It’s more important than anything I can think of. I hope things get better and the coming week is a little less stressful.

    Comment by Barb — June 2, 2008 @ 3:34 am |Reply

  5. Looks like you had a lovely week. The swimming trip looks the best! I am praying that God will give the two of you the wisdom and strength to deal with the teenager. Even in non-blended families, those stresses are common. Praying for you my friend!

    Comment by Melissa Markham — June 2, 2008 @ 4:13 am |Reply

  6. LOL were working as a team now Amy ๐Ÿ™‚

    thanks Diane, LS, Barb and Melissa appreciate the prayers

    LOL Hes not quite a teenager yet

    Yes we love swimming on a Friday

    Comment by my3boysandi — June 2, 2008 @ 7:36 am |Reply

  7. I’m sorry to hear that you were facing problems but so glad that you were able to talk through them and come up with something to work together on when it comes to discipline. Hang in there Jen, and don’t forget prayer. The Lord cares about everything you are going through and wants to hear your thoughts and feelings and that includes the tough times with our children.

    Comment by Susanne — June 2, 2008 @ 10:48 am |Reply

  8. thanks and bless you Susanne

    Comment by my3boysandi — June 2, 2008 @ 11:25 am |Reply

  9. Hugs Jen ๐Ÿ™‚
    I think it;s important that you stand up for your homeschooler as well, you are a fantastic mum. It’s always going to take some adjusting now you all share the same space. But you guys will make it through ๐Ÿ™‚
    Look after yourself
    Hay xxxx

    Comment by Hay — June 2, 2008 @ 3:47 pm |Reply

  10. thanks Hay HUGS
    when we are all working together as a team i think it will be better
    Im helping both of them now:)

    Comment by my3boysandi — June 2, 2008 @ 5:53 pm |Reply

  11. BIG HUGS JEN. Families and relationships of any kind have these scary trying periods. As your home schooler grows older, it makes sense that he is testing his limits especially towards the male adult figure in the house since your hsler is a male as well. i can see both sides of things, and you are doing what’s best: working it out as a family. Making snap decisions like mr w was isn’t going to help. you love each other — you’re just going through a hard time. Everyone needs to give a little and compromise. I’m sure none of you are happy in this situation and this means that fixing things would help everyone feel more comfortable at home and more happy.

    i’m proud of you and praying for your family, jen!!

    Comment by she — June 3, 2008 @ 1:02 am |Reply

  12. I love you, asking God to bless over your family.

    Comment by Denise — June 3, 2008 @ 3:02 am |Reply

  13. awwwwwwwwwwwww thanks she HUGS

    thanks Denise ๐Ÿ™‚

    Comment by my3boysandi — June 3, 2008 @ 7:51 am |Reply

  14. Hi Jen, sorry you are going though this, I was raised in a blended family, I deeply resented my step-father and my mother for not sticking up for us when he was unreasonable. You are in a tricky situation. I hope at your family meeting boundaries were set for everyone, for Mr Wonderful and your Homeschooler, its all about respect for each other and respect for you and fairness, both children should be treated equally regardless of age or fathers. I am like Amy, I sound like Dr Phill, who I actually take on board with regard to families:) Big HUGS, Rachael

    Comment by Rachael — June 8, 2008 @ 9:51 am |Reply

  15. thanks Rachael things are better now we have a consequences list

    Comment by my3boysandi — June 8, 2008 @ 1:15 pm |Reply


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